The last 24 hours to say the least have been interesting. I received a very negative and inappropriate form of feedback on my post regarding my eldest daughter and our cheerleading commitment… I am gonna call it our commitment given that Zac and I work out in our gym with her every night to support her goals, pick her up and drop her off to every lesson and every competition, do her hair an make up for every competition and pay the ridiculously expensive fees for every lesson (on our own by the way), including supporting her request for an additional skill-building classes. Now does that sound like I am a woman on a mission or what!
Over my time, I have had a lot of negative, soul-sucking parasites in my life. I have gone out of my way to ensure I do not associate myself with any of them. As a result of removing those people from my life and only keeping those souls lifting, committed, happy, supportive people in my life – my life has been bliss… Granted you’re literally only human so sometimes as a human, we let the shit creep in. We aren’t robots, we have feelings – and given that, we choose how we want to feel and react to people and the situations we face.
Now, I know I don’t have to justify my life, or explain the level of commitment I have to my Children. Let me rephrase that – the level of commitment that Zac and I have for our children. So of course, I lost my absolute shit, when I receive the utter bullshit I was sent advising me that I am lying about what we do for our kids, that I am taking away the commitment and dedication away from the kid’s real parents (assuming they are referring to my ex-husband and his partner, which my kids don’t live with – but visit).
I am not going to lie – I believed at a point in time, that putting up an epic rant about my commitment to my kids on my personal Facebook page was the most appropriate thing to do. Fuck acting like an adult, right? At that time, I wanted to be that 2-year-old throwing a tantrum in the shopping centre and boy did I do a good job of it.
So, after some amazing support, kind words and token BFF statements like 'screw that stranger, they no nothing' or 'they have no idea what you and Zac do day in and day out for the girls'. I decided to take my post down, stop acting like a 2-year-old and letting the person get to me. Why should I? One of my beautiful friends said to me, people only conduct themselves like this for two reasons: 1. They are miserable and jealous and want other people to feel miserable. And, 2. Because of their lack of commitment and understanding, in an attempt to make themselves feel better they will try and control how people see you. BOOM!
In an instant a weight was lifted from my shoulders – of course, those who don’t know will never speak the truth, those who do know will be waiting, if you have to go to battle – backing you. Those who know and are ashamed will try shift how you are perceived.
So although my first choice of how I wanted to feel about the situation was initially not the greatest, I am so grateful for my support network, who reminded me of my genuine focus. Who reminded me of the amazing things we do, and the choice I have to understand that these are not feelings I choose to feel, that I am happy and I genuinely feel sorry for the person who went out of their way to create misery which on the basis of misconceptions they believe.
